Are There Any Chaste Men? Brothers, Where Are You?
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 I wanted to know more about how he and the married brother stayed chaste. He explained
that besides keeping his guard up he had to stop the necking and petting, "heavy metal" stuff, and make it off
limits. He realized he was "the temple of God" (I Corinthians 3"16-17) that he was "pulling another person into sin
which God would charge me with double punishment." The married brother said, "you have to avoid anything that would
draw you, put you in a tempting situation, and tempting people." He said "You can't be more in the world's stuff than
in godly stuff" James 1:27, 4:4, I John2:15-16; that you can't do everything and remain pure and chaste. Romans 12:2
He also noted how Jesus sent the disciples out two by two to "shun the very appearance of evil". "You have to do it,
follow it, not just talk about" the married brother said. "Kids emulate what they see" he cautioned, and we adult
Christians are "telling kids to do chastity when we don't practice, like the Sachucees and Pharisees." The divorced
brother said he made a decision that flesh would not rule him and mentioned Romans 7 and 8 and that he was constantly
fighting against natural desire, that strengthening our spirit man was so important because old flesh was not saved;
it was the spirit person that has the conscience he said. It took more than church on Sunday, the married friend
explained, when I asked about how this strengthening the spirit, inner man and maintaining their strong commitment
worked. Both talked about the need to get in the Bible, Word of God, study it, meditate on it. They both confirmed
the need to be among believers, in growth ministry not just service ministry like the choir or ushering but small
groups or a support group where you could be held accountable, like Cursillo group reunion, or find one other person
who was "steadfast, immoveable always abounding in the work of the Lord" -- who you could count on being honest,
were suggested. Both said a strong commitment had to be made to be chaste because it was harder now in this culture
than ever before. One last caution was given by the married brother, 'If you can't contain, get married and commit to
marriage." Jesus said through the apostle Paul , "It is better to marry than to burn." I Corinthians 7:9. However, he
followed with Paul's admonition that it is better to be free to be 100% , verse 35, devoted to the Lord, " and he
said it five times in I Corinthians 7:26, 28, 32, 37, 40. Woo! However, "Don't get married just to have sex ," he
exhorted. "It won't work." Both brothers reiterated about it being tough but possible when you make the commitment to
God to pursue the Kingdom agenda that "when we are helpless, He is strong," ready to offer His abounding grace and
love, 2 Corinthians 12:9-10, .
This subject definitely could use more exploration. A forum, "Abstinence, Chastity,
Second Virginity. What Are They? Whose Doing It? And Were Can I Find Some More Support?" for Christian adults in
metropolitan Washington D.C. is being worked on for Abstinence Awareness Week, March 10-17, 2007, to address and
possibly create support groups for those who are pursuing purity, holiness, and/or chastity especially in regards to
their sexuality. If you are interested, check this site in March or visit ALS-Singles Wholeness and Marriage Savers'
website at www.relationships-sweet.com in March.
Incidentally, the divorced brother says he is the most popular guy in his building of
over 180 women to 20 something men.
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